I’ve tried to be a good ex-wife in the ten years since my son’s father and I split up, I never talk bad about him in front of the kids, I try to be lenient about him taking my son whenever he wants, and I try to be friendly when we are forced to deal with each other. Even though in my mind he doesn’t deserve any of it!
During our marriage he was abusive, an alcoholic, and a general jerk, after I left him he did everything he could to screw up my life, and to cause me problems… But I still held to my beliefs that we should all treat other how we wish to be treated, and was as nice as possible.
When he was cialis online overnight in truck driving school, I made the excuses to my son as to why his dad didn’t see him anymore. When he then started driving truck, I was the one there to soothe the hurt feelings my son had about his dad not being around much. And when he lost his truck driving job because he walked into the company’s main terminal drunk and demanded a raise, I came up with a story to help him save face with my son.
But this Christmas, I couldn’t hold my tongue any longer.
My son cheap drugs decided the week before Christmas that he wanted a Wii. I called his dad about it and he told me that he couldn’t afford it, so my husband and I bought one along with all the needed accessories.
On Christmas, my son went to his father’s for the evening, and when he came home at 9pm he told me his dad had bought him a Wii also. Okay, I thought, I still have my receipt, so we’ll return the one we bought and let him spend the money on games.
Then he threw out the kicker: His dad didn’t allow him to bring it home. It has to stay at his father’s house, so that he and his girlfriend can play with it. My son only goes to his father’s house at the most 8 hours every other week, but often quite less because his dad is always too busy.
I then asked what else his dad had gotten him. Nothing, he replied.
So in my mind, his dad bought himself a Wii for Christmas, and got nothing for his son. What a jerk! That’s when I couldn’t hold my tongue any longer and I said it out loud. (Not the jerk part, but the part about him having bought himself a Wii, and just let our son open it.) My son instantly agreed with me, I guess even without my pointing it out, he’s realized over the years how selfish and inconsiderate his father really is.
And that is why he is called your EX….
Gosh I could almost mirror image your post…..exactly the same scenario only I had 4 and I was financially independent of my EX. ALl I ever expected from him was to spend time and pay for whatever school supplies or new clothing they needed. Not bad…I thought…no support payments…I took 50 % of what we invested in our home…Most guys would be kissing the ground I walked on for that deal.
Then we come to school photos…might sound a bit piddly to some but considering the deal he already had…this was the straw that snapped my camels tolerance level. He refused to pay for half as he said he did not ask for them.
Also he was a smoker who told his kids when they asked him to please smoke outside when they were over and he told them that they could stand outsiede if they didn’t like it.
Again I repeat…..and that is why he is my EX!
I never ever disrespected him to my kids even thought he did his best to poison them against me which did not have a hope in hell to happen. Even though when they were younger and thought he was so cool because he had no rules when they stayed with him….as they became young adults they slowly pulled away from him and to this day have little to no respect for this man and that is why ….he is my EX!
They do their own damage. Your son will also grow up to know who this man called dad really is and what he is all about.
Thanks for sharing!
So true! Guys like that can’t hide their true colors for long. My son doesn’t even want to go to his dad’s any more, and I won’t make him, because I don’t blame him. Thanks for stopping by!