Photo by Lst1984As most of you know, I work for the local Municipal Authority, the water company in other words. This is not a job I choose, but was more a job I was chosen for and then hounded into accepting by my relatives, because my work background perfectly fit the bill for what they needed. I was an accountant for 3 years, worked in land development for 7, and am a general computer nerd. I could handle the accounting, the DEP forms, etc…
One of the main reasons I didn’t want the job was because the board is made up of people I have known all my life.
Two of the members are my Aunts, they both have children older and younger than me. The third member is my Gram’s best friend, a nosy lady in her 80s, whose grand kids I used to babysit. The fourth member is another lady whose daughter I went to school with. And the president is a man whose older children I used to babysit.
The real cialis problem with this? They all still see me as a teenager – not the mother of a teenager myself.
I feel like a child playing at being an adult – yet I’m the one who handles the day to day running of the business. I handle all paperwork, bookkeeping, customer relations, billing, and paying the bills. I deal with the other government agencies, the chemical supplies, the analysis lab, and the water operators. They show up at meetings once a month and listen to me talk, they vote on the things I recommend.
But I have never felt so much like they still look at me as a child as I did last night when the fourth buying online drugs lady actually rolled up her paperwork and bopped me on the head with it!
So when do I get to be treated like a grown-up?
My thoughts are with you as I know the concept that you’re feeling, I don’t think that I’ve ever grown past six to the people that I have this problem with; I’m currently twenty-seven. I’ve contemplated this with a single answer, never.
Sadly, there are going to be people that who have watched you grow into the strong-willed female you are at current and still remember you for the young child you were; due to their OWN issues and personal attachments. It’s nothing you have done wrong.
Psychologically it’s in their own minds when they look at you and see you correctly as an adult through visual perspectives mentally they actually see you as the beautiful teenager you used to be; it’s an attachment which is hard to break in older people as they do not move on easily. Sadly, they do not see our points at all. I have some who do not see me as graduating high school/obtaining two degrees/etc and I’ve stood up to them, it just hurt them and I wish I knew something positive in this situation. I don’t. I wish you the best of luck.
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I think a lot of it may be in how we see ourselves. They still think of themselves at the age they were when I was a teen, so how can I now be in my mid-thirties. Or at least that’s one theory of mine! I hate to say it, but I still cringe when I see how much the people I think of as little kids have aged. I’m going to be a great aunt in December, but all I can see is me carting around my oldest niece when she was three. Ahh… Time, and the things it does to us!
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Sorry about the job…no matter where you work it’s something…I think i would prefer the kid over being one of a few women in a “man’s world” in their view…most of the guys still think i should be at home with the kids!
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I’ve done the “woman in a man’s world” thing, I worked in the Forestry and Land Surveying industry for more than seven years – talk about a man dominated industry. I was usually referred to as “the girl” because I was the only one. But I also had job security, because I was the only one who could run the programs I created for the company.